Josh, his long-term partner, is getting ready to marry him.
Kal Penn has confessed that he is gay in the most unexpected manner, revealing his sexuality in his upcoming memoir, “You Can’t Be Serious,” which also discloses that he is engaged to be married.

“I’ve always been very public with everybody I’ve personally interacted with. Whether it’s somebody that I meet at a bar, if Josh and I are out or we’re talking to friends.” he added.
“I’m really excited to share our relationship with readers. But Josh, my partner, my parents, and my brother, four people who I’m closest to in the family, are fairly quiet. They don’t love attention and shy away from the limelight.”

The actor and former White House staff told PEOPLE, “I am engaged to a man and our families will be there for the wedding.”
“The big disagreement now is whether it’s a huge wedding or a tiny wedding. I want the big ass Indian wedding. Josh, hates attention, [has said], ‘Or we could just do quick 20-minute thing with our families and that’s it.’ So we have to meet halfway in the middle.”
Speaking of being a former White House staff, Kal met Josh while living/working in D.C. under the Obama administration, for which he worked in an official position, and they’ve been together since.
Reactions to Actor Kal Penn Came Out As Gay And Getting Married
I love that, depending on where the gays reacting are from, the responses to Kal Penn coming out are either total bafflement at him being gay or total bafflement at the idea that he wasn’t already out due to having bumped into him and his partner at gay bars for years.
@purplechrain
I love that, depending on where the gays reacting are from, the responses to Kal Penn coming out are either total bafflement at him being gay or total bafflement at the idea that he wasn’t already out due to having bumped into him and his partner at gay bars for years.
— Alexander (@purplechrain) October 31, 2021
Was just watching an interview with Kal Penn on CBS Sunday Morning and love how casually and contently it was mentioned he’s been in a same sex relationship for more than 10 years. As I do a double take thinking that is brand new information and good for him!
@DanielAlanB
Was just watching an interview with Kal Penn on CBS Sunday Morning and love how casually and contently it was mentioned he’s been in a same sex relationship for more than 10 years. As I do a double take thinking that is brand new information and good for him!
— The Good (@DanielAlanB) October 31, 2021
Kal Penn subtly came put and this is now all I want to think about even though I have like three hours of work left and am seeing Last Night in Soho later but still, so happy for him!❤🏳️🌈
@WriteThingsPr25
Kal Penn subtly came put and this is now all I want to think about even though I have like three hours of work left and am seeing Last Night in Soho later but still, so happy for him!❤🏳️🌈 pic.twitter.com/mlYEtyIKbd
— 🪴Suddenly Seymour🌱 (@WriteThingsPr25) October 31, 2021
Me finding out Kal Penn is gay and engaged to his boyfriend of over a decade:
@noveldevice
Me finding out Kal Penn is gay and engaged to his boyfriend of over a decade: pic.twitter.com/ABP5XLvHbP
— Evil Bottom Jeans, Boots with the Curse (@noveldevice) October 31, 2021
So Kumar came out as gay? His boyfriend is cute! I could’ve sworn the actor Kal Penn was married to a woman. Oh well, he’s in my tribe now.
@Blain10619551
So Kumar came out as gay? His boyfriend is cute! I could’ve sworn the actor Kal Penn was married to a woman. Oh well, he’s in my tribe now. pic.twitter.com/81sVUuf8N3
— TINKER BLAIN (@Blain10619551) November 1, 2021
Kal Penn came out as gay, and I'm just so happy to see more LGBTQ+ South Asian representation 🥰
@vanadiumcarbide
Kal Penn came out as gay, and I’m just so happy to see more LGBTQ+ South Asian representation 🥰
— Shong-whore-lolo (@vanadiumcarbide) October 31, 2021
Kal Penn has had a male partner for over a decade?! 1. How did I not know this? 2. Why is his partner not me?
@BromonaQuimby
Kal Penn has had a male partner for over a decade?!
— 𝗕𝗿𝗮𝗱𝗹𝗲𝘆 (@BromonaQuimby) October 31, 2021
1. How did I not know this?
2. Why is his partner not me?
incredibly brave of kal penn to come out as engaged to a white man that watches nascar. proud of him
@martyrsdaughter
incredibly brave of kal penn to come out as engaged to a white man that watches nascar. proud of him
— rogue 🎃🌙🔞 (@martyrsdaughter) October 31, 2021
Y’all ain’t tell me we got Kal Penn on the 🏳️🌈 team
@Cartoonie12
Y’all ain’t tell me we got Kal Penn on the 🏳️🌈 team
— Candice 🦇🎃👻 (@Cartoonie12) October 31, 2021
there may be no actor I have spent more time lusting over, so finding out Kal Penn has been quietly gay this whole time is slightly infuriating
@HelluvaBttmCrtr
there may be no actor I have spent more time lusting over, so finding out Kal Penn has been quietly gay this whole time is slightly infuriating
— muad’doob (@HelluvaBttmCrtr) October 31, 2021